When it comes to love and romance, I’m a romantic. I believe in love. I believe in the power of love. As I sipped a cup of coffee and browsed the ‘net, I came across a quote by Hilary Duff that will grace the cover of the April 2015 Cosmo mag.
I don’t want to sound bitter because I’m definitely not, but I don’t know if people are meant to be together forever. Things happen over a long relationship that you can’t always fight. A marriage of 20 years, the accomplishment of that must feel really great, but there are also huge sacrifices. I just always want to fight for happiness. – Hilary Duff
I’ll be honest with you. I had to read that quote a few times. It makes sense, but the part about being together forever… I’m not sure about that part. Full disclosure: I have never been married, but still. I have never believed that people grow apart or fall out of love. I believe that in many instances, people don’t know the person they’re marrying.
Over the years, I’ve seen many people divorce. I often wonder what gets them to that point. Like what incident became the straw that broke the camel’s back. Why now? Then I read a story, “Husband, 108, wife, 105 celebrate 82 years married.”
I feel that people don’t fall out of love or grow apart, I think they get to know the person they are with…the real person. There just comes a time when both parties drop the facades, see the situation for what it really is or realize that you can’t change people. Not at all…
All too often, I see people trying to change people, ignoring signs and habits that they hate, or living in denial so they can get boo’d up for the winter. Worse, they just want to be married. Then they say, “We fell out of love.” Tell the truth and shame the devil, y’all were never in love. Lust, maybe? Love, nah.
I’m not saying this was Hilary and her ex-husband’s case, but in my heart, I feel that love can be forever. Very rarely do people just do an entire 360 degree turn… rarely. So, I’m not buying that with bitcoins or cash.
I think we need to do more dating and less sex. More talking and less texting. More eye-to-eye conversations and less FaceTime. We just need to be. Tell our stories and walk in our truths. Be honest about what we do and don’t want. Face the reality of who we are. That may mean that we have to tell some people goodbye before we even start, but to me that’s better than divorce. Maybe I’m just naive…
So what do you think? Can love be forever or is that just a silly girl’s dream? Leave your comment below and let’s talk this thang out.