Have you ever reached a point in your life where you were forced to stop and analyze your life, your work, your family… your everything?
I think we all have been there but I think what matters most is how we handle those moments of uncertainty.Â In 2010 I had so many of those moments but gradually I learned and am learning to dance in the rain and laugh in spite of the tears.
As I dealt with the good and bad that life brought I made notes.Â Usually I would write a topic and jot down some pointers about those topics to remind me to stay focused.Â When I looked over those topics a few weeks ago I figured that I would share them here.Â I often feel like we go through much but don’t share enough due to issues of pride, heartache, and so many other longings.
Thus the 30-Day Road to Discovery initiative was created.Â Every day for the next 29 days I will choose a topic to address.Â My desire is that you will chime in and give your two ‘sense’ about the topics so that we can possibly learn from each other. Â So don’t be a peeping Tom, come on it and drop a comment or two where you feel the need.
Day 1: Self Evaluation
Self Evaluation is about stepping away from the crowd and looking at you.Â Sometimes it even means having what I like to call, an out of body experience.Â Don’t laugh.
Let me explain, if you’re anything like me you have a ton of things to do with an overflowing to-do list and many outstanding obligations but never enough time.Â I have to admit I’m one of those people that hate to say no so I end up with so much on my plate.Â Well last year I got full.
One day I sat on my bed looking at my make-it-happen list aka to-do list and I admitted to myself that I was tired.Â I was tired of doing things for other people who often times didn’t appreciate me and only call because they know I’ll say yes.Â So I sat down and sent out some cancellation emails and called some people and told them something came up.Â The only thing that came up was me.Â I was sick and tired of being tired.
I had to step outside of me and take a look at me.Â I asked myself so many questions and answered even more.
- Who am I?
- What are my flaws?
- What are my strengths?
- Where am I?
- How did I get here?
- Where do I want to go?
- How will I get there?
- What is keeping me from getting there?
- Who can help me get there?
- Why am I not there yet?
- Can I take anyone with me?
- What’s the purpose of all this anyway?
I asked and answered all these questions honestly.Â I came to the conclusion that I was so busy being there for other people that I couldn’t be there for me.Â I made a pact with myself that from that moment on everything I agreed to do would have a purpose.Â I’m not saying that I won’t do anything for anyone else but 99% of what I do will be for me and the purpose of helping me get where I’m trying to go.
I think we all get sidetracked sometimes and with the dawn of the new year everyone wants to do things differently and better.Â But the most important thing is to know self.Â That may even mean that you need to do a self evaluation.Â Whatever you do just know who you are and where you’re going.Â Don’t make the mistake of mindlessly wandering around with no goal in sight.Â Life is too short and not promised.
So Spinkys have you ever done a self evaluation?Â If so, what steps did you take?Â If not, did you find this article interesting?